Pregnancy

Autumn – hues of technicolour depression

Autumn – hues of technicolour depression

We’ve had a terrible summer. The weather never seemed to realise we were waiting in our shorts and singlets, and it held out on us for months. We had days, not weeks, of sunshine, and then suddenly, it was March, and Autumn was upon us. Eva was born at the… Read more

Rare Disease Day – my speech

Rare Disease Day – my speech

Last week I gave a speech for the New Zealand Organisation for Rare Diseases on Rare Disease Day. It was just 3 days after Eva’s anniversary and I was a bit worried about how I would cope. I managed to get through till the last paragraph before I cried, so… Read more

Parents sue over birth defect – can we blame them?

A New Zealand couple living in Australia are suing the medical professionals who allegedly failed to identify the condition for $2.5 million in damages. Their daughter, Aria, who is now two years old was diagnosed with Aicardi Syndrome after an MRI scan revealed the condition. Aria has impaired vision, hearing loss, scoliosis,… Read more

Feature in the SOFT UK newsletter

Feature in the SOFT UK newsletter

A few weeks ago I was contacted by a representative from SOFT UK, which is a charity that provides information and support to families affected by trisomy 13 (Patau’s syndrome), trisomy 18 (Edwards’ syndrome) and related conditions. They provide support through the many stages families may find themselves in from… Read more

The true meaning of beauty

The true meaning of beauty

In the last few weeks I have been taking some active steps to help myself. I could feel, and can feel, a hint of depression crawling back into my chest. I feel tired constantly. I’ve stopped running. I’m drinking too much. I want to change that. I can’t rid myself… Read more

Two years ago – where the story started

Two years ago – where the story started

Two years ago I was going to sleep after a frustrating day of expecting labour, and getting not much. I had been induced at 8am that morning with prostaglandin gel. By 8pm that night the minor period-like pains had eased and I was looking at my first night in the… Read more

The right decision

The right decision

A few months ago a woman reached out to me through facebook. She was pregnant and the 20 week scans had revealed real problems with the baby. I won’t give too many details, because this isn’t my story to tell, it’s her’s and her family’s. But I will say she… Read more

A normal sadness

Months ago, I wrote about my lack of a birthing plan here. Having never had a baby before, I didn’t know what I wanted. All I knew was I didn’t want anything off the table in terms of pain relief and I didn’t feel too worried if it ended in… Read more

Feature on Real Imprints

The lovely people over at Real Imprints asked me to write an original piece about the Peanut and me. I crammed a year of blogging into around 4,000 words and submitted it. You can read the first half here. The second half will feature on Thursday. Spoiler alert, we learn the Peanut’s… Read more

As long as it's healthy

“Do you have a preference for a boy or a girl?” The pregnant woman pauses. Considers her belly and gives the typical answer. “I don’t mind, as long as it’s healthy.” It’s the standard response. I know I gave it myself many months ago before I knew the Peanut was… Read more

As long as it’s healthy

“Do you have a preference for a boy or a girl?” The pregnant woman pauses. Considers her belly and gives the typical answer. “I don’t mind, as long as it’s healthy.” It’s the standard response. I know I gave it myself many months ago before I knew the Peanut was… Read more

Not the post I wanted to write

I do not want to be writing this post. It has been 11 days since I gave birth to the Peanut, and I have thought a lot about how much I wish I could be writing a different post. I was supposed to be sleep deprived and potentially emotional, but… Read more