Parenting

Guest interview – Achievement Center of Texas

Guest interview – Achievement Center of Texas

On almost a weekly basis I get an email from an organisation asking to write a guest post for The One in a Million Baby. It’s not something that I do with the blog, but I always appreciate the emails, especially when they come from organisation that are doing good… Read more

Autumn – hues of technicolour depression

Autumn – hues of technicolour depression

We’ve had a terrible summer. The weather never seemed to realise we were waiting in our shorts and singlets, and it held out on us for months. We had days, not weeks, of sunshine, and then suddenly, it was March, and Autumn was upon us. Eva was born at the… Read more

I see a girl…

I see a girl…

I have this photo on my phone of Eva. I spread the apps out across my phone so that there’s a screen with just one app and I can swipe through the screens until I reach her face, free from apps in the way. It’s the face I see before… Read more

Rare Disease Day – my speech

Rare Disease Day – my speech

Last week I gave a speech for the New Zealand Organisation for Rare Diseases on Rare Disease Day. It was just 3 days after Eva’s anniversary and I was a bit worried about how I would cope. I managed to get through till the last paragraph before I cried, so… Read more

Two years since she died

Two years since she died

It’s hard to believe it has been almost 2 years since Eva died. Eva was only here for 10 and a half months, less than half the time she has already been gone, but I will feel her loss and the hole she left behind her for the rest of… Read more

Disability as a unique demonstration of diversity – not misery

A woman kills her 20 year old daughter and the public’s response is to call it a mercy killing. Donella Knox murdered her 20 year old daughter Ruby, who had severe Autism spectrum disorder and intellectual disability. The Herald reported that Ruby had a number of associated conditions in addition… Read more

Dear Mamas podcast with guest, The One in a Million Baby

Before Christmas I got together with two fantastic women, Emily Writes and Holly Walker, on their podcast Dear Mamas which features on The Spinoff to talk about what it’s like to be a parent when someone in the family has chronic illness, medical needs or disability. We discussed Eva and… Read more

Emily Writes – Rants in the Dark book launch

Emily Writes – Rants in the Dark book launch

When you’re a new mum you need all the community you can get. Sometimes it’s hard to find a community you gel with. Mothers can be judgmental. One mother who is not judgmental, and who has made it her business to share the ins and outs of parenthood and build… Read more

What does it mean to be a mother?

What does it mean to be a mother?

What does it mean to be a mother? Does it have a definition we all agree on? Is there a difference between being a mother and a parent? When Eva was born and her diagnoses started rolling in, I was desperate. This wasn’t the role I signed up for. A… Read more

Thank you, thank you, thank you!

I’m feeling a bit emotional today, in the best possible way. And I wanted to say thank you to everyone who has supported me  and read my posts, listened to the podcast and voted for me when I nagged at you to do so. I asked you all recently to… Read more

Can I be a feminist and a special needs advocate at the same time?

Two days ago I wrote a piece for The Spinoff Parents. I had just seen an article about Sally Phillip’s documentary “A World Without Down Syndrome”. In the Guardian article she discusses her concerns over making the non invasive screening tests for Down Syndrome available through the NHS. After reading… Read more

Parents sue over birth defect – can we blame them?

A New Zealand couple living in Australia are suing the medical professionals who allegedly failed to identify the condition for $2.5 million in damages. Their daughter, Aria, who is now two years old was diagnosed with Aicardi Syndrome after an MRI scan revealed the condition. Aria has impaired vision, hearing loss, scoliosis,… Read more