Acceptance

#Notspecialneeds

#Notspecialneeds

In the world of social justice, language is important. I consider myself fairly woke, or if I’m honest, in a continuous process of waking up, and almost daily I learn something about the language I’m using in reference to disability, mental health and ableism. I thought I had the disability… Read more

We can’t just condemn

Satoshi Uematsu, 26, killed 19 people and injured another 26 in a centre for disabled people near Tokyo, Japan, this week. He did so under the premise that he wanted “to rid the world of disabled people”. In February he sent a letter to a politician outlining his plan. He… Read more

A New Year, moving forward not moving on

A New Year, moving forward not moving on

The end of 2015 is approaching.  I feel conflicted about how to view it and moving forward. I’m sure some people would think I would want to put the last two years behind me. 2014 and 2015 have without a doubt been the hardest years of my life. I have… Read more

That old chestnut 

I was reading a special needs mothers’ facebook page today and had to catch my breath for a minute. There was a comment on there  in reaction to a blog post that I felt so strongly about. It wasn’t ableist, or offensive. It didn’t use language that offends in the… Read more

A club you never wanted to be part of

A club you never wanted to be part of

It’s hard to press publish on a blog where the majority of the posts are about grief. It’s hard because I’m writing what I’m feeling, but I don’t feel that way 24 hours a day, or even every day. I hesitate to press publish because I know it makes people… Read more

Discovering stories – Bethany Van Delft

Discovering stories – Bethany Van Delft

I get so excited about discovering new things these days. New friends to meet. New TV shows to binge watch. New comedians to make me laugh. New stories to inspire me. New music to smile to or cry to. New authors to read. It’s a big part of why I’m… Read more

The next step – The One in a Million baby as a podcast

The next step – The One in a Million baby as a podcast

This post is going to be different. I am excited. Really genuinely excited. I can feel life buzzing away in me. I can feel Eva’s influence on that excitement and feel her steering me gently into the project which is making me so excited. I wrote a while ago about… Read more

A lesson in humility

A lesson in humility

This post pains me to write. It involves me admitting some things about myself pre Eva that I’m embarrassed of now. I feel ashamed of the thoughts and feelings I had and it’s easy for me to sit on my self-righteous pedestal with my new thoughts and feelings and forget… Read more

Triumph

I’m part of an amazing group of women online. We are the spin off to a larger online group that in turn is the spin off to an amazing parenting podcast, The Longest Shortest Time. This group of spectacular women have supported each other, and me, through some crazy ups… Read more

Casting the first stone

I feel very cautious about this post. I’ve been thinking about it for a couple of days and while I realise I might not be putting out the line that most people take, I think it’s important that I do. In the New Zealand news recently there was a story… Read more

She's quite something, this girl

I feel like I have accepted Eva as she is now, but I realise I am not quite ready to see where she may end up in five, 10 and 20 years time. I am part of multiple online communities for CHARGE, including a group with parents of toddlers and infants… Read more

Equilibrium

Let me preface this post by saying I am not a poet. While I love to write, and I love to read poetry, writing it has always felt like fumbling in the dark. Any poetry I write feels trite and cliche and clunky to me. I search too hard for… Read more